A Duo Coaching Instrument

Living Life in Six Dimensions

A relational assessment exploring how each partner sorts the world — six patterns of attention that shape how you think, decide, and respond. Where you stand. Where they stand. And the meaningful space in between.

A Duo Coaching instrument
grounded in the meta-model
© Neil Wilkie 2026

How this works

A relational instrument for couples to complete together, in one sitting, on one device. Each partner answers thirty short prompts in turn. The instrument measures where you each fall on six continuums of cognitive style. These aren't personality types — they're patterns of attention. Understanding them tends to dissolve the question of who is right and replace it with the more useful question of how you each tend to think.

1. Motivation

Towards goals — or away from problems?

2. Comparison

You notice sameness — or difference?

3. Verification

You trust your own sense — or external feedback?

4. Information

You prefer detail — or the big picture?

5. Action

You leap in — or wait and consider?

6. Direction

You want options — or the right procedure?

This is a shared exercise. Sit together at one device — phone, tablet, or laptop. One of you answers, then hands over to the other. Allow about twelve minutes per partner, around twenty-five minutes in total. Be honest rather than ideal — the value lies in the gap, not the score.

A note on privacy. Your individual answers stay on this device. When you finish, a short summary of your final scores is sent to Neil and Maria at Duo Coaching so they have it ready for your session — but the detail of how you answered each question is not shared.

Who's taking part?

Two names, so the readout can speak to each of you.

is answering
Motivation Question 1 of 20

← Strongly this Strongly this →
Tap to answer

First partner complete.

Now pass the device. The second partner will answer the same twenty questions independently. Don't peek at one another's answers — the comparison is most useful when neither has anchored to the other.

The six dimensions, read together

A reflection for the room.
These aren't faults to fix. They're different operating systems running in parallel. The largest gaps are where you'll find your most predictable conflicts — and your most generative complementarities. Notice which gaps feel costly, which feel useful, and which you've simply never named.